I’m at the point in my life where people around me are going through relationship failures. When it happened to me, two years ago, I felt like I was the only one in the world that it had ever happened to. I was struggling with depression and isolation, and I didn’t need the added stress or anxiety of figuring out what my life would be like on my own.
Now friends of mine are going through the same thing. Marriages are failing, people are trying to figure out what to do next, reflecting on how they got to this point in their life.
One of my friends reached out to me last night, and I felt unable to give helpful advice. Many of the concerns, issues and frustrations were echoes of what I went through, and I still haven’t really taken the time to reflect on everything that has happened to me.
I’ve been so busy with work, and trying to distract myself that I haven’t taken a good look at where I am and what I’m doing. I keep telling myself that I will sort my stuff out soon, but I never seem to find the time.
All I can really say to those that are going through divorces, separations, or other relationship break-ups is: “go slow, make plans, and think ahead.” Also, finding people to talk to is never a bad thing. As much as I wasn’t able to give good advice to the person that reached out to me, I hope it helped knowing that someone was listening.
I never really felt like I had anyone to listen to me when I was going through the emotional roller coaster that was the end of my marriage. Thank goodness certain aspects of my life have improved so much. Now if only I could “fix” some of the other issues that haunt me, I would be good to go.